Escalation
One of the biggest mistake men make is moving too fast, too soon. It works fine for us, but for a woman, she might not be ready yet.
For guys, we can come to an orgasm very quickly. Men basically need to get aroused, stimulated, and we’re done.
Women, on the other hand, need a gradual escalation to come to a point of orgasm.
With each of the stages of sexual response (you’ll find out about this in an upcoming chapter), the intensity of the stimulation is increased.
Anticipation and Tension
Anticipation (otherwise known as "teasing" and "excitement") is a powerful and effective tool to use.
In order to multiply the effects of your sexual techniques, you’ll have to add anticipation into the mix.
Anticipation will get her more aroused, give her a greater chance to have an orgasm and focuses her mind on the physical pleasure she’s experiencing.
And…while you’re building up anticipation, at the same time you’re cranking up sexual tension as well.
The sexual tension will have to be released (in the form of an orgasm).
The Key to Building Anticipation
The key to building up anticipation is to focus on the areas surround the main "target" before you actually hit the target.
For example, you can do this by rubbing her inner thighs, buttocks and hips before actually touching her vagina. While you’re rubbing those body parts, she’s getting wetter and wetter by the second, anticipating you to finally move onto her vagina. At the same time, the tension is growing within her and at some point, it’ll have to be released.
A note: when you’re building up the anticipation in her, it’s going to build up in you as well! It’s going to be your job to maintain self control, and keep the escalation at the right pace.
Relaxation
A woman has to be completely relaxed to have an orgasm.
If she has her mind on her job, self-conscious about how her body looks, trying to have an orgasm, or whatever the case may be, she’s not going to be relaxed. She’ll be tensed, and her body won’t allow her to release an orgasm.
Your job?
To help those troubles melt away and disappear (even if only temporarily) with your words, touch, attitude and preparations. Your lover must be totally and completely relaxed and free from tension.
The only tension she should be feeling is sexual tension!
Give Before You Receive
Before receiving any sexual pleasure from her, you have to make sure she receives sexual pleasure from you first.
Why?
It shows that:
1) You have control of your sexual desires
2) She’ll be in a more "ready" state to have an orgasm while having intercourse, and
3) After she has an orgasm, she’ll be ready and willing to reciprocate to the best of her abilities!
Seriously, if you can compare the quality of the blow job she gives you, the one performed without her experiencing an orgasm FIRST, will, ironically, SUCK compared to the blow job she gives you after she RECEIVES an orgasm.
Sex goes the same too…
Go ahead and test this out for yourself if you don’t believe me!
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