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4 Reasons Why Female Orgasms Are So Hard To Achieve

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4 Reasons Why Female Orgasms Are So Hard To Achieve

Sex Tips & Advice - 4 Reasons Why Female Orgasms Are So Hard To Achieve

There seems to be a conspiracy. Men want women to climax, women want to climax. So why is that, according to studies, about 70% of women never reach an orgasm during intercourse?

We can of course focus on other methods women can orgasm (e.g., oral sex, fingering, etc.) but even those may not be enough to giver her an orgasm if she has negative sexual issues with herself.

Female Orgasm Difficulty #1: Shyness

One of the main things that prohibit women to let go between the sheets is good ol’ fashioned shyness. If this is what’s stopping your woman from reaching an orgasm, then there plenty enough ways to help her out.

For one, dim the lights or turn them off if that’s what she prefers. Many women have body and weight issues so the harsh reality of being naked in front of you will not only make her uncomfortable but make her mind focus on the wrong things (i.e., how she looks versus the pleasures her body’s getting).

Another way you can help her out is by actually encouraging her to keep her top on. Tell her how you like seeing her nipples hard and straining against her shirt or lingerie. This will make her think she’s doing you a favor by not removing her top, and help her be less self-conscious at the same time.

Female Orgasm Difficulty #2: Performance Issues

She knows she’s not your first and sometimes, this thought gives rise to nagging performance issues between the sheets. How does she compare to all your other love interests? Well, put her fears to rest and make her focus on reaching her own orgasm by compliment her or whispering her name often while making love.

Female Orgasm Difficulty #3: Physical Pain

Not everything you read or see in X-rated films is what they’re made out to be. A seemingly hot sexual position may actually be causing her a physical discomfort and may not be sexually stimulating at all.

So pay attention to how she REALLY reacts when you try out new moves in bed. If sexual position is not the cause of any physical discomfort she feels, a visit to a doctor may be necessary.

Female Orgasm Difficulty #4: Past Negative Experiences

A bad experience with a former flame may also be inhibiting your woman to let go and enjoy the pleasures of sex with you. For instance, one woman had a former boyfriend confess to her that she smelled funny down there.

This bothered the woman so much that long after the boyfriend had gone, she has never allowed anyone to perform oral sex on her again. Worse, she was so focused on this ‘bad thing’ that sex altogether became unpleasant and she was starting to wonder if she was frigid.

If you notice anything like this with your woman, discuss it while re-assuring her all the while that you do like making love to her and that all you want to do is make her experience the same physical pleasures you’re experiencing. It’s worth the sh

When Good Physic makes You Ugly !! (RARE IMAGES)

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Why India's Housing Bubble Similar to Japan's

hi, if you find this massage is interesting, share with your friends Why India's Housing Bubble Similar to Japan's A housing bubble is in place when property rates start rising at double-digit rates, and people start taking loans to invest in property, with the idea that the loan can be paid back easily and the property sold at a profit.

Once the bubble is burst, the property is worth a fraction of its purchase price and people get left behind with a negative asset, where the EMI is higher than what the asset can earn in a month. In such a situation, the balance outstanding loan cannot be paid off even if the asset is sold.

Japan is an excellent example of a housing bubble that went horribly wrong, and it has a glaring similarity to what is happening in India.

Read on and identify the similarities:

The Japanese real estate market boomed from 1985 to its peak sometime in early 1991.

During this time, Japan’s property prices rose much faster and more steeply as speculators used paper profits from a booming stock market to invest in property, insupportably leveraging the prices of both higher and higher.

The biggest speculators in Japan's frenzy were deep-pocketed corporations, and they pumped up the commercial property market at the same time that home prices were inflating.

Japan suffered one of the biggest property market collapses in modern history. At the market’s peak in 1991, all the land in Japan, a country the size of California, was worth about $18 trillion, or almost four times the value of all property in the United States at the time. A commonly-quoted claim was that the land beneath the Imperial Palace in Tokyo was worth more than the entire state of California.

Then came the crashes in both stocks and property, after the Japanese central bank moved too aggressively to raise interest rates. Both markets spiraled downward as investors sold stocks to cover losses in the land market, and vice versa, plunging prices into a 14-year trough. In 2005, the land in Japan was worth less than half its 1991 peak, while property in the United States has more than tripled in value, to about $17 trillion.

Homeowners were among the biggest victims of the Japanese real estate bubble. In Japan’s six largest cities, residential prices dropped 64 percent from 1991 to 2004. By most estimates, millions of homebuyers took substantial losses on the largest purchase of their lives.

By 2004, a prime “A” property in Tokyo's financial districts were less than 1/100th of their peak, and Tokyo’'s residential homes were 1/10th of their peak, and even at this time they were considered to be listed as the most expensive real estate in the world. At the end of the Japanese housing bubble, some $20 trillion (1999 dollars) was wiped out with the combined collapse of the real estate market and the Tokyo stock market.

Read next story in this series: Myth: Prices Will Keep Rising Forever

This article has been developed from the October 2005 issues of the New York Times. You can read it here

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Property Trouble? ARCHIVES | EQUITYMASTER HOMEPAGE 24TH APRIL 2008 In July 2006 I made a prediction: property prices in India will decline by 25% to 40% over the next 9 months. By July 2007, property prices had increased somewhere in the region of 20% to 30%. So much for my prediction. So much for sensible analysis. The property markets were in frenzy in 2006 and 2007. Large developers were listing their stocks via IPO’s and they were all lapped up. Well-paid analysts were talking about the embedded Net Asset Value in the stocks of these property developers and the land bank they all owned. The SEZ policy is the equivalent of the industrial license raj that ruled - and ruined -India’s economy till 1991. Land was acquired at maybe Rs. 10 per square foot. A few approvals later, the land was re-zoned and re-born as a pretty garden villa real estate project selling at Rs. 4,000 per square foot. The magic of the Indian rope trick. The magic of an opaque approval process. Land barons were born. They made it to the mega rich league of the market cap charts. Investing in India: real estate is overpriced? Sam Zell, the legendary real estate developer and investor from USA, gave a talk at a conference in Bombay in December 2006. Not more than 5 feet 6 inches in height, he stood above the frenzy of the crowd. Sam Zell had just sold his company, Equity Office, to the private equity firm, Blackstone, for some USD 35 billion in November 2006. Why are you selling Sam? - all the commentators seemed to be asking him - the US economy has a long way to run. I can picture Mr. Zell smiling in silence as he collected his cash. He sold out at a level that - in hindsight - was the peak of the US property market cycle. ADVERTISEMENT Your Family’s Future Depends On This. Read Now "There is no shortage of land in India", declared Sam Zell, "there is only a shortage of zoned land". Read that statement carefully. Read it again. And think of the SEZ policies and the land grab. Sure, India has a demand for some 20 million homes and some 5 million office units and some 200,000 hotel rooms. And schools and colleges to educate the one hundred million young children. And hospitals to take care of the 100 million elderly people in the country as they age in a changing society where the children don’t live with them anymore. And we need many more cricket stadiums to watch overpaid cricketers sell you some TV sets, washing machines, and mobile phones. A back of the envelope estimate indicates that India needs to build some 3 billion square feet of property in the next 5 years to partially meet some of this demand. How much is that? Well, visualise Nariman Point. And now imagine that we have to build a string of Nariman Points from Bombay to Bangalore. There is enough land to construct all of that. The shortage is in the zoned land. This is a man-made shortage. A shortage created by policy. Just as India had to suffer for 20 years with a regime that forced us to buy the Premier Padmini and the Ambassador - and we had to wait 3 years to get the cars delivered. At the end of the wait, we got a useless product for a lot of money. And Premier and Ambassador were profitable companies - whether their profits were declared in cash or cheque. Just like the sheltered real estate developers. Land is in abundant supply. There is some special mechanism to convert this useless land to useful, zoned land. My colleagues in our real estate arm tell me that there are 62 approvals required to get useless, un-zoned land converted into an end product that we can live on. Artificial barriers have created an artificial price of the end product. And this leads to a strange end market at today’s prices. The very rich can buy any property anywhere in the world - or any city in India. The rich can afford to buy one nice home in any one city. The middle class cannot really afford to buy in many cities. The poor have no hope of buying anything. ADVERTISEMENT

Bangalore realty today

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Bangalore Set on Ghost Town Path

"Bangalore realty developers have lost their heads," a senior contact in one of the Big audit firms told me. "They are providing their foreign investors with dreams of 100%, returns, by claiming ownership of lands they do not have in their possession," he added. This may well send Bangalore, known as the IT capital of India, and before this, as the city of gardens, into becoming India's first city of ghost towns. Large projects in areas like Whitefield may soon be dotted with half-completed projects, leaving investors and home buyers in a state of limbo. Many developers in Bangalore, who cannot be named, have invested in land by buying what can be called call options. They have paid a premium (or earnest money) of Rs 2 crore for purchase of land worth Rs 100 crore, and have signed up intent to purchase, developing project reports that show them as owners of these properties. The objective is simple. Once the foreign capital comes in, the money is used to pay the land owner. This may be one of the main reasons that was driving up land prices around Bangalore. Now, with a serious credit contraction in the US, most of this foreign capital has slowed down, as a result of which, we could soon see many such mega projects stalled. Bangalore, as I have said earlier, has already cracked about 40% in some areas, specifically Whitefield, and if this credit squeeze continues for another quarter, developers themselves would be seen scurrying for cover. It is only a matter of time foreign investors get wind of this scheme, which is developed by young managers of audit firm, freelancing for 3% - called carry - and local developers. Of course, the main objective is to list the company, and exit by palming of expensive stock in to the hands of retail investors, but with the IPO market in doldrums, its a matter of time before Bangalore becomes city of ghost towns instead of gardens.

Realty: Greater Fool Theory in Slow Motion

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Realty: Greater Fool Theory in Slow Motion

Ever wondered why rates of homes are spiralling each month, despite large tracts of buildings remaining unoccupied? Several like Keki Mistry, MD of HDFC, say prices in India are 3 times more affordable than in the US and around the world. Basically, has Mr. Mistry lost his nuts? I have friends who earn more than Rs 25-50 lakh a year, and yet cringe at paying an EMI of Rs 1 lakh a month. And as someone said, try getting a 800-square feet home in Andheri and Goregaon (suburbs of Mumbai) for less than Rs 60 lakh (Rs 6 million). Everytime, the markets go up, Mistry and others talk of these ubiquitous genuine buyers driving up prices. This is definitely not true, because these so-called genuine buyers have themselves become speculators. The second reason they give is that the arrival of cheap home loans have made housing more accessible. This is indeed true, yet, not completely responsible for this manic rise of 300%. Contrast this to 1995. There were no home loans then, yet prices were driven up to what they are at current levels in India. Then came the huge fall where a correction went to almost 50-60%, and during this time, home loans were amply available; yet they did not take the market up. So somewhere we are missing out an important fact. Fact is, real estate is not being driven up by availability of cheap home loans or genuine buyers, but by the same bunch of speculators/investors who buy "call options" on homes - i .e. they book 100 flats by paying the price of one flat at booking time. A month or two later, the building is advertised to retail buyers. When these buyers approach the builder, they are told that the project is already full, but a flat is available only on resale. However, retail buyers, either driven by desperation for a home, or by sheer desire to make capital gains on a perpetually rising-in-value asset, are forced in to a purchase. It's the greater fool theory, in slow motion. This cycle was excellent as long as speculators could access easy money from the profits of stock markets and pump it in to real estate. However, this cycle now has faced a massive discontinuity -- the effect of which will become evident in April 2008. Huge losses in the stock markets and the subsequent broker payment crises of January 2008 will rear their ugly heads on these housing industry speculators at the end of March 2008. In May 2008, professionals will see their salaries cut, as is evident in the IT industry, which will turn in to less demand for new rentals and home purchases, since professionals buy homes in the May-June timeframe, after looking at their raises and perks in March. The next year, we will bear witness to a painful downturn in real estate prices, as current projects will experience a massive slowdown. An interestin phenomenon in the US is the emergence of "ghost towns", where large swathes of row houses and condiminiums have been abandoned by buyers who cannot afford the EMIs any more, as they see the cost of their homes fall to half of what they were when they purchased them. I will not be surprised to see this phenomenon here in India too. In the 1995 boom, we did not have massive projects like townships, cities etc. Today in 2008, real estate companies, flush with funds, are developing entire cities and towns. The main indicator is the advertisement of BL Properties of the UAE, which was advertising its Lakeview project in Mumbai newspapers. These chaps are selling "Ajman" a desolate emirate in UAE as a potential suburb of Mumbai. Now, I have heard of good salesmen selling snow to the Eskimo and sand to the Arab. However, this is the first instance of me seeing an Arab selling sand to an Indian. As I see it -- either Indians are super rich, super fools, or the real estate market has truly hit the peak

The Maya of Mumbai Real Estate Deals

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Saffron Group Talks Long-Term in Real Estate Now

The biggest real estate private equity fund invested in India, the Saffron Group, is now talking long-term about Indian real estate.

How many times has this happened in your life? You bought shares of a company in the hope of gaining 30% in a couple of months, and you waxed eloquently its virtues at a South Mumbai champagne party. You woke up groggy-eyed next morning, and winced as you found out that the stock you hold has crumbled 20%.

You are not worried, you tell yourself, because you have purchased these shares for the long term. Now, you are quoting Warren Buffet and how he made his billions holding on to good stocks. In the long term - never mind Keynes says we are all dead - you convince yourself, your share is sure to return 5 times. If you are sheepishly reading this and saying: Touche, how true; you are not to be ashamed. You are now in blue-blooded company; for some of the astute investors in Indian real estate, Saffron Group, said that it will remain put for a minimum of five years in upcoming properties and will buy out assets with assured rental income.

"Our strategy is to be a leading player in the field. We don't have any short-term view. The industry is growing and it will yield better results for another 10-15 years," Kapoor said. This means just one thing: upcoming projects are not expected to return in less than 5 years, and Saffron is waiting in the wings to pick up distress sales of properties. The Group, a brain-child of Ajoy Veer Kapoor and his peers from the banking fraternity, is the promoter of Euronext-listed Yatra Capital, an India-focused real estate fund. Yatra Capital has already raised $260 million in the Indian real estate market. A $350-450 million unlisted real estate fund, launched in February 2008, had an anchor investment of $75 million from Standard Life UK. It is expected to close by the end of 2008.

If you just purchased real estate in India, hold on to your property for the next 10-15 years, for gone are the super returns of 2004-07. No more 30% each year. For that matter, considering an 8 percent inflation tick-in, your interest rate on the home loan is certain to rise further.

Barclays Bank Pays Ludicrous Rent for Worli Office

Barclays Bank, a major global financial services provider, and Britain’s third-largest bank, has done a ludicrous rental deal for office space in Mumbai, where it has ended up agreeing to pay Rs 1.08 crore per month for a 15,000 sq ft office space. In the same quarter, the financial institution saw its Q1 profits fall, suffering a 1.0 billion-pound (1.25 billion-euro, 1.95 billion-dollar) hit from the global credit crunch. Earlier, the UK bank had announced £1.7 billion ($3.3 billion) in new write-downs amid speculation that it was preparing for a rights issue, to strengthen its capital position. Yet, the same bank has gone ahead and closed a ludicrous lease deal in Worli, Mumbai, where it is said to have paid Rs 725 per sq ft for 15,000 sq ft office space in an apartment block called Ceejay House (pictured left). This, at a time, when Citibank, in a bid to resurrect itself from the subprime crisis, is selling off global properties, including ones in Mumbai's poshest areas. This deal is particularly intriguing, considering it is unimaginable that a bank like Barclays would pay such a high rate, which even seasonsed real estate professionals in Mumbai are calling a "freak deal". The devil of course would appear in the details of the deal, not much of which has been reported. For one, Barclays already occupies 60,000 sq ft, in the same building, which it leased or purchased (we are not sure) in 2006. Interestingly, we do not know what rate Barclays has paid for the earlier deal, and whether the current deal includes the renewal of the older property. Property deals can include many things that do not get recorded in the lease document. One of my imaginative scenarios are as follows:

  • Pay Rs 725 per sq ft for 15,000 sq ft but get the 60,000 sq ft. space for free.
  • Pay Rs 725 per sq ft for 5 years and get another 5 years free.
These are shenanigans of the real estate lobby to create an illusion that real estate is a great investment. As an aside, Ceejay House is adjacent to Poonam Chambers, occupied by NCP minister and aviation minister, Praful Patel, whose duplex and swimming pool spans over 35,000 square feet.

This story appeared in the Mumbai edition of The Times of India, dated March 24, 2008. Surprisingly it was not found online on the web site, at the time of writing this post.

The Maya of Mumbai Real Estate Deals

It's a season of contradictions, and manipulations. While those with excess money are splurging on apartments, others despite their money, have nothing to own. The skewed Mumbai apartment markets has become a haven for either the super-rich or the denizens of the slums. The real estate market, perched on a precarious ledge, is about to topple, but this does not mean there is respite for middle-class home buyers. And this means, that unlike 1995, the real estate industry is using all the ammunition in its arsenal, to make sure that the illusion of real estate industry growth persists for some more time. Citibank, in a bid, to shore up money for its beleagured US operations, is selling all its expensive properties in Mumbai, and at the same time film actors and finance company executives are moving their excess cash in to apartments and property. Vinod Khanna, yesteryears's film actor and Osho devotee, has paid Rs 1.2 lakh a square feet for an 2,400 sq ft apartment in Mumbai's Malabar Hill building, built in 1972, called Il Palazzo. The apartment, whose total cost is Rs 30 crore, was sold by the usual suspect Citibank. The sale was done at an auction held at its office in Bandra-Kurla Complex, and particpants included former Citi India chief, Jerry Rao, and others. As the reporter quipped, each tile of this apartment is more expensive than a Nano car. Il Palazzo has another famous resident, i.e. Rakesh Jhunjhunwala, who purchased an apartment for Rs 25 crore in 2006. Citi has been on a selling spree of Mumbai apartments since 2007. It had also sold an apartment in the NCPA Building, Nariman Point, for Rs 97,900 a sq ft to a London-based NRI. Unrealted to Citibank, an apartment at Rs 90,000 a sq ft, in Usha Kiran, another 1970's building on Carmichael Road, which is in the same area as the new Mukesh Ambani tower, Antilla. The sale was supposedly made to an executive of Indiabulls, as mentioned by the owner Nirmal Zaveri, of Tribhivandas Bhimji Zaveri, for Rs 27 crore, but there have been no confirmations on the identity of the buyer. Zaveri himself plans to move to a neighboring and cheaper Villa Orb tower, where rates are at Rs 55,000 and Rs 65,000 per sq ft. Aamir Khan, has agreed to pay Rs 33 crore, to pick up an entire housing society building in Santacruz, Mumbai. His objective: build an entire studio on the plot. The society was built around 32 years ago for SBI employees. There are 22 apartments in this complex, and each would get Rs 1.5 crore for their 730 sq ft home. In another development, Barclays Bank, negotiated a lease deal of Rs 1 crore a month, for occupying 15,000 sq ft, in CeeJay House, Worli, the rent working out to Rs 745 per sq ft. Barclays already occupies 60,000 sq ft, in the same building, but there is no comment on whether this previously occupied space is owned or leased. Further, the current lease details have not been specified, hence any add-ons, freebies, or back-end rebates in cash, cannot be detected. The magicians of the real estate business, providing back-end rebates, cheap funding with interest rate write-offs, and other tactics, are creating the ultimate illusion for the local-train traveler, that housing is the best business to put their money in to. Unfortunately, one just needs to check the sources of funds, to realize how the net cost of the apartment sold and rented is actually far less than what is made public through newspapers. P.S: There appears to be a huge demand for buildings around 30 years old. This appears to be a common thread through the entire Mumbai belt, and considering that apartments are being picked up by politicians, finance company heads, and film actors, it appears that some Maharashtra government ruling is expected for redevelopment of buildings over 30 years old.

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Santa Cruz Man Loses Shirt (and Everything Else) in Realty Bust

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Santa Cruz Man Loses Shirt (and Everything Else) in Realty Bust

Drunk on the real estate mania, splurging on negative amortization loans, and staying invested in denial, has finally left a Santa Cruz (Calif., US) man naked and playing in the sand.

Steven Forgaard, 37, [not the person in the picture] has defaulted on nine homes and expects the banks to close all of them. He now says he considers it a mistake to have invested in the real estate market.

Forgaard – a software project manager – has become an insignia for all Bangalore software professionals who have done exactly the same, and stand to face a similar future in 6-8 months.

"I knew I was sitting on time bombs," Forgaard said. “I knew the market was going to go soft and I knew that property values would decline. But I figured that I had enough equity to survive the storm and sell or take the loss and refinance. I didn't anticipate a downturn of epic proportions such that home values are 40 percent less than they were,” he said.

Forgaard bought his first investment home in the booming housing market of North Las Vegas in 2004, followed in the next two years by eight others in such hot markets as Phoenix and Palm Springs, California, before he realized in 2006 that the situation was worse than he had feared. “I knew that the market was soft but at that point I'm realizing that this could really get ugly,” he said. “At that point I had a bad feeling in my stomach.” Forgaard thought he still had enough equity in the homes to “take a huge hit,” possibly losing most of his investment, but thought for a while that he could still ride out the storm. He is slated to lose his car and primary (home) and will have to exit Santa Cruz, where he was born and raised, and live by the beach.

Experts say speculators like Forgaard, who count on real estate values to keep rising to pay off their debt, play a risky game and doubly so when they use neg-am loans. The Forgaards likely will sell their Santa Cruz home and declare bankruptcy before banks start foreclosing on his properties. With a newborn son, they intend to start over in his wife's Northern California hometown. “Where I went wrong is I invested heavily in an area that wasn't my passion and I had a really demanding full-time job so I couldn't pay attention to nuances, the little indicators telling you the housing market was going soft," he said. "I was in over my head."

Read the Reuters story here

5 Little Known Female Orgasm Secrets// part 2

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Escalation

One of the biggest mistake men make is moving too fast, too soon. It works fine for us, but for a woman, she might not be ready yet.

For guys, we can come to an orgasm very quickly. Men basically need to get aroused, stimulated, and we’re done.

Women, on the other hand, need a gradual escalation to come to a point of orgasm.

With each of the stages of sexual response (you’ll find out about this in an upcoming chapter), the intensity of the stimulation is increased.

Anticipation and Tension

Anticipation (otherwise known as "teasing" and "excitement") is a powerful and effective tool to use.

In order to multiply the effects of your sexual techniques, you’ll have to add anticipation into the mix.

Anticipation will get her more aroused, give her a greater chance to have an orgasm and focuses her mind on the physical pleasure she’s experiencing.

And…while you’re building up anticipation, at the same time you’re cranking up sexual tension as well.

The sexual tension will have to be released (in the form of an orgasm).

The Key to Building Anticipation

The key to building up anticipation is to focus on the areas surround the main "target" before you actually hit the target.

For example, you can do this by rubbing her inner thighs, buttocks and hips before actually touching her vagina. While you’re rubbing those body parts, she’s getting wetter and wetter by the second, anticipating you to finally move onto her vagina. At the same time, the tension is growing within her and at some point, it’ll have to be released.

A note: when you’re building up the anticipation in her, it’s going to build up in you as well! It’s going to be your job to maintain self control, and keep the escalation at the right pace.

Relaxation

A woman has to be completely relaxed to have an orgasm.

If she has her mind on her job, self-conscious about how her body looks, trying to have an orgasm, or whatever the case may be, she’s not going to be relaxed. She’ll be tensed, and her body won’t allow her to release an orgasm.

Your job?

To help those troubles melt away and disappear (even if only temporarily) with your words, touch, attitude and preparations. Your lover must be totally and completely relaxed and free from tension.

The only tension she should be feeling is sexual tension!

Give Before You Receive

Before receiving any sexual pleasure from her, you have to make sure she receives sexual pleasure from you first.

Why?

It shows that:

1) You have control of your sexual desires

2) She’ll be in a more "ready" state to have an orgasm while having intercourse, and

3) After she has an orgasm, she’ll be ready and willing to reciprocate to the best of her abilities!

Seriously, if you can compare the quality of the blow job she gives you, the one performed without her experiencing an orgasm FIRST, will, ironically, SUCK compared to the blow job she gives you after she RECEIVES an orgasm.

Sex goes the same too…

Go ahead and test this out for yourself if you don’t believe me!

5 Little Known Female Orgasm Secrets / part 1

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The biggest mistake when it comes to "giving women orgasms" is focus on the "how-to" techniques without paying proper attention to the best mind-set and strategies to make her climax.

In reality, the strategies are the key to unlocking the power of the techniques.

You’ll understand that while the techniques by itself can be effective, the mind-numbing, noisy, wet, toe-curling orgasms lies largely in the strategy you use when applying the techniques.

Mindset

Your state of mind (and your partners’) can really make or break the chances of her having an orgasm.

The Wrong Mindset

How do you approach your lover’s orgasms?

You probably enter into sex with the mindset and goal of "giving an orgasm."

It’s this approach that leads too many guys on a wild goose chase for the "perfect" strokes and techniques. It leaves you blindly seeking out every tip and trick out there, furiously testing them out on your lover.

I hate to break it to you, but this is the wrong mindset if you truly want to "give" an orgasm.

It sounds contradictory, I know. But it’s true, and here’s why…

When you head into the bedroom with the goal of "giving" her an orgasm, you’re setting up expectations in both of your minds. This approach will create pressure on both you and your partner that an orgasm MUST happen. Once you add pressure to have an orgasm, it is virtually guaranteed to add some negative stress and anxiety during your intimate times together.

And…as this stress grows, it will actually make it much harder for her to cum.

Have you ever seen a football or basketball player "choke up" during a game?

The fans, the crowds, the competition build up so much pressure for the athlete to perform well that their focus is diverted from the game and to their anxieties.

Ultimately, they wind up screwing up. Too much focus and drive on your part to "give" an orgasm can have the same effect on your partner.

Effects of Stress on Your Partner

If the stress and pressure get too high, she may be left unsatisfied. And because you have set this "goal" to have an orgasm in a first place, and now that the goal is un-met, both you and your partner will be left feeling disappointed.

If this approach is sustained, you may wind up anchoring these feelings of disappointment to your times of physical intimacy - carrying it over into your next sexual encounter, further increasing her "performance anxiety."

The Right Mindset

Here’s the paradox…

If you want to give an orgasm, you have to NOT focus on the orgasm!

Instead of focusing on the goal of achieving an orgasm, start focusing your attention on the pleasure of the process.

The key is, if you focus on giving pleasure, and making sure she’s feeling good, that orgasm will come (no pun intended.)

Communication

Not every technique will work on every woman. One woman may prefer one particular stroke or rhythm more than the next woman does.

To find out what really makes your woman tick, you’ve got to open the lines of communication. You need to find out what she likes as you’re applying a technique. That way, you can optimize your rhythm, speed, stroke etc. to match what she likes best.

Aim for open verbal communication, but if your lover isn’t as brave speaking her mind (especially when you’re face is buried between her thighs) you can opt for more non-verbal communicative methods, such as squeezing hands or body response.

Communicating well with your partner can make it much easier to bring her pleasure, and ultimately, more and better orgasms.

Escalation

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HINDI VERSION....

Mr. Bill Gates had announced that Microsoft plans to release a windows version in Hindi. Here are some Windows related terms that are to be used in the Hindi version of ............Khidkiyan'DoHazar ( Windows 2000): 1.Phaail = File 2.Bachao = Save 3.Aise Bachao = Save as 4.Subko Bachao = Save All 5.Mujhe Bachao = Help 6.Dhoondo = Find 7.Firse Dhoondo = Find Again 8.Hilao = Move 9.Dak = Mail 10.Dakiya = Mailer 11.Paas se dhekho = Zoom 12.Door se dhekho = Zoom Out 13.Kholo = Open 14.Bandh Karo = Close 15.Naya = New 16.Purana/Khatara = Old 17.Badli Karo = Replace 18.Bhaago = Run 19.Chaapo = Print 20.Dekh Ke Chaapo = Print Preview 21.Nakal Utaaro/Kaapi =Copy 22.Kaato = Cut 23.Chipkao = Paste 24.Payshal Chipkao = Paste Special 25.Goli Maaro = Delete 26.Nazaara = View 27.Hatyaar = Tools 28.Hatyaar Khamba = Toolbar 29.Khuli Chaadar = Spreadsheet 30.Kalti Maaro = Exit 31.Ped = Tree 32.Thooso = Compress 33.Chooha = mouse 34.Tik Karo = Click 35.Tik-Tik Karo = Double Click 36.Idhar-se-Udhar - Forward 37.khamba= Scrollbar

Bill Gates Dies...

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s Dies...

"Well, Bill," said God, "I'm really confused on this one. I'm not sure whether to send you to Heaven or Hell! After all, you helped society enormously by putting a computer in almost every home in the world, and yet you created that infernal Windows. I'm going to do something I've never done before. I'm going to let you decide where you want to go!" Mr. Gates replied, "Well,thanks,God. What's the difference between the two?" God said, "You can take a peek at both places briefly if it will help you decide. Shall we look at Hell first?" "Sure!" said Bill. "Let's go!" Bill was amazed! He saw a clean, white sandy beach with clear waters. There were thousands of beautiful women running around, lying in the water, laughing and frolicking about. The sun was shining and the temperature was just perfect!! Bill said, "This is great! If this is Hell, I can't wait to see Heaven!" To which God replied, "Let's go!" and off they went. Bill saw puffy white clouds in a beautiful blue sky with angels drifting about playing harps and singing. It was nice, but surely not as enticing as Hell. Mr. Gates thought for only a brief moment and rendered his decision. "God, I do believe I would like to go to Hell." "As you desire," said God. Two weeks later, God decided to check up on the late billionaire to see how things were going. He found Bill shackled to a wall, screaming among the hot flames in a dark cave. He was being burned and tortured by demons. "How ya doing,' Bill?" asked God. Bill responded with anguish and despair. "This is awful! This is not what I expected at all! What happened to the beach and the beautiful women playing in the water?" "Oh, THAT!" said God. "That was the screen saver!"

Paying petrol bill with your card? Watch out

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DELHI: Hackers around the world are getting innovative. From skimimng and cloning your credit card, to making fake sites; from using stolen cards on them to using new online trading models, the cyber thieves are working overtime to hack into your bank account. If you think that giving your credit or debit card to a petrol pump attendant or a restaurant waiter is safe, think again. Chances are that it would be ‘skimmed’ and ‘cloned’ into multiple cards by the time you reach home, warn security experts. Card thieves are using magnetic stripe readers and encoders which are easily available in the market for $250-$600. While a card reader can read the data on the magnetic band of your credit or debit card, an encoder can encode it on to any plastic card with a magnetic band, even a normal hotel room key.
Says network security management company Appin’s founder director, Rajat Khare, “All credit cards can be cloned by simply inscribing cards with a similar magnetic band just like a hotel number is fed into a magnetic room key. These kind of card frauds are becoming common.” Banks are advising customers to subscribe to mobile alerts. ICICI Bank card products head Sachin Khandelwal said, “We have a 45% market share with about 8.5 million credit cards in the market. The percentage of card frauds is low at about 4 basis points of all transactions. Nevertheless, we shoot an SMS alert for every transaction above Rs 2,000 to all our customers. Skimming of credit cards is generally done when a customer places a mail or phone order transaction.” In additions to mobile alerts, HDFC bank also provides an extra security layer for all credit and debit card customers. Through this facility, the cardholder can create his own additional password, which provides an additional security layer for all On-line transactions, said HDFC Bank credit card marketing head Parag Rao. Another kind of credit fraud happens even before a new card has been received from the bank. If you have just received a new credit card from the bank, but discover that it already has a charge attached on it, don’t be surprised. Credit card number generators are freely available online (on sites like http://www.brothersoft.com) which claim to generate card numbers of various companies starting from ‘5’ (Master Card) or ‘4’ (Visa) or other digits. It also generates 13, 16, 18 or 19 digit card numbers. These generators use the same algorithms like `Luhn formula’ used by government agencies and banks to generate numbers.

Dilbert's Theorem on Salary

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Dilbert's Theorem on Salary-

Dilbert's Theorem on Salary states that engineers and scientists never earn as much salary as business executives, sales people & management guys. This theorem can now be supported by a mathematical equation based on the following three postulates: Postulate 1: Knowledge is Power (Knowledge=Power) Postulate 2: Time is Money (Time=Money) Postulate 3: (as every engineer knows): Power=Work/Time It therefore follows: Knowledge = Work / Time And since Time = Money, We have: Knowledge = Work / Money. Solving for Money, we get: Money = Work / Knowledge Thus, as Knowledge approaches zero, Money approaches infinity, regardless of the amount of Work done. Conclusion 1: The Less you Know, the More you Make.

types of world economies

hi, if you find this massage is interesting, share with your friends 1)TRADITIONAL ECONOMICS You have two cows. You sell one and buy a bull. Your herd multiplies and the economy grows. You retire on the income...... 2)INDIAN ECONOMICS You have two cows. You worship them.... 3)PAKISTAN ECONOMICS You don't have any cows. You claim that the Indian cows belong to you. You ask the US for financial aid, China for military aid, Britain for warplanes, Italy for machines, Germany for technology, France for submarines, Switzerland for loans, Russia for drugs and Japan for equipment. You buy the cows with all this and claim of exploitation by the world.... 4)AMERICAN ECONOMICS You have two cows. You sell one and force the other to produce the milk of four cows. You profess surprise when the cow drops dead. You put the blame on some nation with cows & naturally that nation will be a danger to mankind. You wage a war to save the world and grab the cows... 5)FRENCH ECONOMICS You have two cows. You go on strike because you want three cows. 6)GERMAN ECONOMICS You have two cows. You reengineer them so that they live for 100 years, eat once a month and milk themselves... 7)BRITISH ECONOMICS You have two cows. You declare they are both mad.... 8)ITALIAN ECONOMICS You have two cows. You don't know where they are. You break for lunch.... 9)SWISS ECONOMICS You have 5000 cows, none of which belong to you. You charge others for storing them.... 10)JAPANESE ECONOMICS You have two cows. You redesign them so that they are one-tenth the size of an ordinary cow and produce twenty times the milk. You then create cute cartoon cow images called Cowkimon and market them worldwide...

11)RUSSIAN ECONOMICS You have two cows. You count them and learn you have five cows. You count them again and learn you have 42 cows. You count them again and learn you have 17 cows. You give up counting and open another bottle of vodka... 12)CHINESE ECONOMICS You have two cows. You have 300 people milking them. You claim full employment, high bovine productivity and arrest anyone reporting the actual numbers....

Property market crash in the US spreads to Spain

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The slump in Spain's house prices is beginning to bite into the whole economy, according to latest figures and official data from analysts and the government. After almost a decade of boiling, fuelled by overseas demand for the country's sun-drenched villas, Spanish property market is declining. Some market experts see what is happening in Spain as the clear indication of US property crash spreading across the Atlantic. Data released by the Spanish statistical office (INE) in March-end strongly suggest that the market has now taken a dramatic turn. In the 12 months to January, completed house sales were down 27 per cent on the previous 12 months. Sales of second-hand dwellings, representing more than half of total sales, fell 36 per cent over the same period, while sales of new houses were down 15 per cent. Figures were consistent with mortgage market as total lending to home buyers fell 28 per cent over the period. In a recent report on European housing market, S&P cited Spain, Ireland and UK as the most vulnerable for a possible sharp decline in house prices. In case of Spain, the report recalled a warning by S&P in 2005 of the need for a cooling down in Spanish property market. The market kept boiling until a slump last year when house price growth slowed to three per cent from nine per cent in 2006. The sheer demand for housing in peak years, especially by foreign buyers, led to huge supply through unprecedented construction activity. That helped fuel growth in the economy as a whole. Another consequence was keeping unemployment at low levels, and even opening the way for an influx of expat workers – mainly North African. A glut in house supply and weakening market means a sharp drop in reconstruction and rising unemployment, especially among migrant workers with more social and political implications. According to S&P, the biggest concern now is the lag between housing starts and the most recent trends in the market, as reflected by house price inflation and the number of actual sales. Housing starts stabilised in the second half of last year, but at still very high levels (650,000 annualised). At the same time, house price inflation decelerated steadily. The average number of housing starts in Spain over recent years totals 700,000 per year. Yet the population has only been rising by 600,000 per year. Even allowing for some catch-up earlier this decade, the supply of dwellings has outpaced demand (and obviously not every new addition to the total population requires a new home). Furthermore, UN projections indicate a slowdown in population growth in coming years, to about 500,000 per year. The share of residential investment to GDP increased to 9.3 per cent in 2006 and 2007, compared to an average for Spain since the early 1970s of 5.5 per cent and industrialised economies' average of around 6.5 per cent. As mentioned before, part of the demand in the market was foreign, but that is not sustainable and Spain began to feel the punch. As the booming property sector constituted a big share of gross domestic product (GDP), the decline now will wipe a considerable percentage of GDP growth. House prices in Spain are estimated to have increased by 190 per cent between 1997 and 2007, only Ireland and UK boomed the same or slightly more. The average GDP growth rate for the same period was 3.8 per cent. Sharp correction in the market, as expected, made many analysts downgrade the outlook for Spanish GDP growth to around one per cent this year, from almost two per cent previously. Spiralling decline in property market started by the first quarter of this year, manifested in a decline of residential investment and not only house price fall. Last year the decline in residential building permits was at 11 per cent, and in the fourth quarter alone the number of permits slumped by 29 per cent year on year. The Spanish Government is planning a spending increase on infrastructure in a bid to keep the construction sector afloat, but this might not absorb all employment shed by ailing residential investment. And most likely it would cut the government fiscal surplus of two per cent accrued during the boom and growth period.