5 Little Known Female Orgasm Secrets

hi, if you find this massage is interesting, share with your friends Sex Tips & Advice - 5 Little Known Female Orgasm Secrets Pages: 1 2 The biggest mistake when it comes to "giving women orgasms" is focus on the "how-to" techniques without paying proper attention to the best mind-set and strategies to make her climax. In reality, the strategies are the key to unlocking the power of the techniques. You’ll understand that while the techniques by itself can be effective, the mind-numbing, noisy, wet, toe-curling orgasms lies largely in the strategy you use when applying the techniques. Mindset Your state of mind (and your partners’) can really make or break the chances of her having an orgasm. The Wrong Mindset How do you approach your lover’s orgasms? You probably enter into sex with the mindset and goal of "giving an orgasm." It’s this approach that leads too many guys on a wild goose chase for the "perfect" strokes and techniques. It leaves you blindly seeking out every tip and trick out there, furiously testing them out on your lover. I hate to break it to you, but this is the wrong mindset if you truly want to "give" an orgasm. It sounds contradictory, I know. But it’s true, and here’s why… When you head into the bedroom with the goal of "giving" her an orgasm, you’re setting up expectations in both of your minds. This approach will create pressure on both you and your partner that an orgasm MUST happen. Once you add pressure to have an orgasm, it is virtually guaranteed to add some negative stress and anxiety during your intimate times together. And…as this stress grows, it will actually make it much harder for her to cum. Have you ever seen a football or basketball player "choke up" during a game? The fans, the crowds, the competition build up so much pressure for the athlete to perform well that their focus is diverted from the game and to their anxieties. Ultimately, they wind up screwing up. Too much focus and drive on your part to "give" an orgasm can have the same effect on your partner. Effects of Stress on Your Partner If the stress and pressure get too high, she may be left unsatisfied. And because you have set this "goal" to have an orgasm in a first place, and now that the goal is un-met, both you and your partner will be left feeling disappointed. If this approach is sustained, you may wind up anchoring these feelings of disappointment to your times of physical intimacy - carrying it over into your next sexual encounter, further increasing her "performance anxiety." The Right Mindset Here’s the paradox… If you want to give an orgasm, you have to NOT focus on the orgasm! Instead of focusing on the goal of achieving an orgasm, start focusing your attention on the pleasure of the process. The key is, if you focus on giving pleasure, and making sure she’s feeling good, that orgasm will come (no pun intended.) Communication Not every technique will work on every woman. One woman may prefer one particular stroke or rhythm more than the next woman does. To find out what really makes your woman tick, you’ve got to open the lines of communication. You need to find out what she likes as you’re applying a technique. That way, you can optimize your rhythm, speed, stroke etc. to match what she likes best. Aim for open verbal communication, but if your lover isn’t as brave speaking her mind (especially when you’re face is buried between her thighs) you can opt for more non-verbal communicative methods, such as squeezing hands or body response. Communicating well with your partner can make it much easier to bring her pleasure, and ultimately, more and better orgasms.